Your life belongs to you now

I want to tell you about my week, not because I want to necessary share what I do, but to encourage you to think about something. 

I won’t tell you all the details, but since it was a final week of Pride month, there were some parties. I was invited by my friend to a great show at Barclays Center – The Opening Ceremony for World Pride hosted by my beloved Whoopi Goldberg (where Cyndi Lauper, Chaka Khan, and Ciara performed.) The next day was an office party that the same friend invited me to, and on Sunday there was a Pride party at my friend’s Keith, and we watched the parade afterward (for way too many hours.) Of course, not every week is like that, but there are weeks/months filled with events. I don’t like going out a lot at night (I love exploring NY, but more during the day), I’m far from being a party girl, but I like my friends, and I do go out sometimes. And I always have a lot of fun. 

The reason I’m talking about it is that I’ve been working on creating the life I’ve always wanted to have. It’s not been easy, I’ve been struggling with a few things, I have to continually remind myself that I’m able to do it, but I do live the life that’s true to myself. And that is everything to me, and that’s what I’ve been talking about in my YouTube series #5minChange. 

But to know what kind of life I wanted to have, I had to be brutally honest with myself. I had to admit what I wanted and – most importantly – who I am. And the reality is that I love NY, I love working, creating, writing, meeting people, have my quiet mornings and evenings, read Sunday Times and books; listen to the music and sip my coffee. I do most of this stuff by myself because I like my company. I also love spending time with my friends and would love to have a partner who has a similar lifestyle. And as I said in my previous posts – I don’t see myself as a mother or wife, it’s not who I am. I do love the freedom of choosing what I would do every day. I’ve also been working on myself, building my business (which is not easy), and figuring my future out. All by myself (with massive help from my friends.) Because this is what I wanted.

The goal of my videos is to convince you that you can have the life you wanted, but no one will give it to you. You have to work on it and for it. You have to be honest about your desires. You have to cut the noise of people you like or love, and figure this shit out for yourself. No one is you, so don’t listen to people’s advice about your life. Choose by yourself. Don’t be afraid of your parents’ reaction; your life belongs to you now. So, what would you do with it?

I told you about my life, and I’m asking you now – what do you want? What your heart truly tells you to do? It takes bravery, I admit it, I consider myself brave; it takes balls (I find myself having balls), and it takes a lot of courage to be who you indeed are. 

I’ve been writing about transformation for over 3.5 years now, and I always say this – the decision is yours. It always is. 

My life is not easy (let’s not forget that I’m an immigrant here); and this year has been very challenging for me (I decided to go on my own, and it’s excruciating sometimes), but I wouldn’t trade it for any other life. And do you know why? Because if I died tomorrow, I knew I lived the way I wanted; that I kept my integrity, and didn’t settle for things that weren’t true to me. 

And that’s why I encourage you to be honest with yourself and stop hiding behind your parents/partner/friends/job and decide. It won’t be easy, but can you honestly say that now it is?