Two questions I won’t ask when I meet someone for the first time

Two questions I won’t ask when I meet someone for the first time:

Where are you from?

What do you do?


Because it doesn’t matter. 

Especially when I meet someone for the first time. There is an unlimited amount of questions that you can ask to get to know someone – UNLIMITED. 

As an Immigrant in NY, I heard the first question a billion times (the record was seven(!) times in one day.) And right after I gave my answer, I usually heard something about vodka (I hate vodka) or – before – something about the pope (I’m not religious.) 

Admit it – you ask these questions to “place” this person somewhere on a map of what you know. But that won’t help you to know more about this person because everyone is different. Period.

My country doesn’t define me, my job doesn’t define me, what defines me are my actions. 

If someone wants to share with you their country of origin or their profession, they will. 

And there are way better ways to get to know someone. 


How are you feeling today?

Has anything exciting happened to you today?

Are you looking forward to something exciting this week?

Do you have any interesting plans/goals this week/month/year?

What makes you laugh the most?

What would make you happy right now? 

What’s the challenge you struggle with right now?

And millions more. Try it, and see what comes out of it.