Why Would I Ask My Boyfriend to Work Out?

I can see some of your faces right away. And I’m smiling, because I know what some of you think – that this is a weird or superficial request to make. And I don’t agree with you. I’ve been writing about bodies, working out and self-confidence a lot lately – and those subjects will be coming back to since that’s something I’m really interested in. And this request is part of this subject, too. I will keep encouraging you to take care of your mind and your body, starting simply with a consistent workout.

I’m taking care of myself and I am committed to that. That’s why I don’t understand why I would let my guy not to work out. I think it’s fair to expect the same amount of work from him. I don’t expect anything I don’t give back myself. If he wants to have a woman with a fit body, he has to deliver that too, doesn’t he? My point is – if you want to be with a skinny guy or with a big guy – that’s fine, that’s your choice. But if you want to be with someone whose body is in shape, you have to be in shape too, no matter if you are a woman or a man. I don’t understand, and never understood, even when I was a little girl, this double standard that we have – women have to look like a bunch of photoshopped models from the magazines’ covers, but guys can have a barrel instead of a flat belly. Where did this notion come from? Why is it still considered normal? 

If I was a coach potato myself, I wouldn’t bother a guy with such requests, but as it happens I am not. I want to be with someone who understands the importance of physical health and remains active (I love athletes and I always wanted to be with one). I want to work out with him, I want to roll on a bed with him too, of course, but it’s not the only thing I want to do.

Not everyone likes muscles like I do and I get it – not every girl would want to have a guy with big biceps (actually probably most of them don’t even care), but we all are trying to be fit mostly – let’s face it – for the guys. And what do we expect in return…? Most of the time – nothing! And that’s something that blows my mind! Honey, if he wants you to have a skinny ass, so he has to get rid of this barrel he has on him, too. That’s the harsh truth. Take it or leave it guys, but I won’t take it back. If you don’t work out, don’t you dare tell women anything about their size and compare them with skinny models! The moment you do so, I won’t hesitate to ask you to take off your shirt and show me what you’re hiding underneath. Try me. And guys, first and foremost – before you start demanding anything from women, take off your clothes and stand in front of a mirror (the big one, not the one in the bathroom) – where is the truth right now? And finally – to answer my first question – Why I would ask my boyfriend to work out? Because it’s 2017.