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What’s the deal with meditation?
I don’t know what it’s like everywhere else, but here in the US, meditation has become very popular, to the point where companies hire teachers to give...

Give What You Get
A week ago, I got a text message from a guy I went on a date with… a year before. I didn’t expect to hear from him again (which is why I deleted his number), so I was pretty surprised.&...

How I Decided To Give Up This Beauty Race
It happens that I’ve been spending a lot of time on the Upper East Side recently, and must say one thing – there are a lot of fake faces out there. And it really annoys ...

Where Are You From?...Who Cares?
I can’t believe I have to write about this again, but it just bothers me so much, so here we go. Racism is alive and homophobia is alive, and if you think differently, you’re delusional&...

Step 61 - Find Your Lifestyle
As I said in one of my recent posts – the world has changed and the way we live has changed. I honestly think it’s time to reevaluate some ideas and solutions about the life we want to l...

Do you even want to get married?
I’ve been thinking a lot about marriage recently (not about my own), because suddenly I spend a lot of time talking to married guys (just as friends). And I started to come...

What Does It Mean To Be Successful? My Five Years In NYC
It’s been five years since I decided to live in NY. These were five difficult years, and yet ones filled many amazing moments and great people I’ve met along the way. But five years i...

Step 60 - What Does It Really Mean To Leave Your Comfort Zone?
“Leaving the comfort zone” became a very common phrase these past few years. It is associated with the idea of breaking free from the life you’ve had so far – with sta...

Choose Your Own Relationship
I’m single so – naturally – I do think about guys and relationships. I’ve been thinking a lot of what type of a guy would actually make me want to be in a relationship. An...

Step 59 - How Many (Facebook) Friends Do You Need?
  I remember when Facebook first came into our lives, we were all kind of proud of the fact that our friend count was growing. The more there is social media in our lives, th...

Step 58 - Are You Able To Let Your Old Self Go?
I’m lucky enough to have a few friends whom I can share my fears, tears and happy moments with. These are friends with whom I can go through any emotional rollercoaster. It’s very...

What’s The Best Dating Advice?
  There are plenty of advisors on the dating scene – there are videos and articles about every aspect of dating, with all these great pieces of advice: “What to do on a date,&rd...

What’s The Best Dating Advice?

added: 2018-07-06 , category: It's all about sex

 

There are plenty of advisors on the dating scene – there are videos and articles about every aspect of dating, with all these great pieces of advice: “What to do on a date,” “What not to do before a date” and “How to find out if he/she is the one.” There are many myths about dating that have persisted for years now and we all believe in them. “If he likes you, he will text you first,” “You shouldn’t text him first after the date,” “You should have sex on the third date, not earlier, because he might think you’re a whore,” Don’t respond to his text message right away, wait a few hours, make him wonder.” I swear – this is all crap.

What I’ve recently noticed is that you should definitely avoid listening to outside advice instead of your own intuitionI’m back on dating scene (after a long period of not caring) and I have one piece of advice for you – do what feels right to you. If you want to text him first – do it; if you want to sleep with him – do it; if you want to ask him out – do it. Why do I think this is the only right way? Because I believe that the most valuable thing in the world you have is time. And why waste it on waiting? I made that mistake recently – I waited a few weeks (and let my mind become occupied with all kinds of different scenarios that I came up with, none of which made sense) and when I finally couldn’t stand it anymore, I just texted the guy, and five minutes later we had a date. Did it matter who texted whom when we met? No, it didn’t; not for me. Will there be the second date? I don’t know, but if not, it wouldn’t be because I texted him first. And if that was the case – it only means the guy is not for me. It’s 2018; men have power and women have power. Let’s use it the way we want to. Does it really matter who texts whom? I don’t think so. I know that there is this theory that a guy should text a girl first, because “he’s a hunter” and he needs to feel like he “fights for the woman,” but let me tell you one thing – if a woman has balls to text you, it only means that there will be plenty of times to prove to her that you’re a strong man, because she will not make it easy for you, that’s for sureThis type of womausually knows what she wants and who she wantto be with, so you still have to deliver. The mere fact that you’re there is not enough for her. Since she made that first step, she expects something really special, and if that doesn’t happen, she will just simply move on. To the real hunter.


I believe that there are no rules when it comes to dating and sex. They say, “don’t have sex on a first date, because he will never see you again.” Well, with a few we met up again, and with couple, we did not. And it’s the same with every aspect of dating. Just don’t wait. If he doesn’t respond to your text message, it just means he wasn’t interested anyway and you just saved yourself many days or weeks. If he doesn’t want to see you after you had sex – it’s not about the sex, he didn’t want to have anything more regardless of the way the date ended up. There should be only one rule in dating – just be yourself. You want to ask certain questions – ask; you want to see him again – let him know; you want to invite him somewhere – just do it. And if you don’t want to do any of these things – don’t do them. It’s fine. Make yourself happy first and do things that feel natural to you. And don’t do anything that you “think you should do.” Only you know what’s the right way. And one more thing - remember that there is always (ALWAYS!) another fish in the sea. So don’t waste your time on the one who seems like he’s drowning instead of finding his way against the current.



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