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“The Top Five Regrets of the Dying” - Regret Number Three
  I continue my posts about Bronnie Ware’s “Five Top Regrets of the Dying”. I wrote about regret number five and four hereand here. The third regret is: &bdquo...

NY Through My Eyes - West Village, October 2018
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“The Top Five Regrets of the Dying” - Regret Number Four
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Color Factory - Wake Up Your Inner Child
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Your Opinion of Me Is None of My Business
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“The Top Five Regrets of the Dying” - Regret Number Five
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Step 61 - Forget About “Finding Your Passion”
I’ve already written in Just Like NY about “looking for a passion,” but I have a few new thoughts on the subject.  First of all, forget about this trend of “live yo...

Just Let Us Be the Woman We Want To Be
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Breathwork with XPT
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Make Your Own Choice
I was recently called out on holding a supposedly strongly stance against marriage. Since it happened twice in one month, I feel like something I said was actually lost in translation.  I neve...

What’s the deal with meditation?
I don’t know what it’s like everywhere else, but here in the US, meditation has become very popular, to the point where companies hire teachers to give...

Give What You Get
A week ago, I got a text message from a guy I went on a date with… a year before. I didn’t expect to hear from him again (which is why I deleted his number), so I was pretty surprised.&...

It’s Your Man Or...Your Girlfriend?

added: 2018-05-19 , category: It's all about sex

 

I recently noticed a very scary pattern, and I’m wondering what is causing it. I’ve noticed that women are a bit lost and confused as to what kind of partner they want to have by their side. I understand feminism and female empowerment. I’m in and I am against the patriarchy and the idea that women belong only in the kitchen (unless that’s where she wants to be), but I’ve noticed women are confused as to who they want to be with now. From my observation, and I really hope I’m wrong, some women (I hope it’s only some) are looking for…a “girlfriend” in their partner. 

 


 

What does that mean? They do all the stuff with their partner that they used to do with a girlfriend. I was part of a Facebook group for women (I had to leave that group) and one of the ladies posted a photo of her husband doing her pedicure. I was shocked, but I was even more shocked (and terrified) that other women (almost all of them) were envious of it. My question is: ladies, do you really want your guy to do your nails? Why? There are salons out there, with people who do that professionally. I would be happier if my guy gave me money to do that.  If it’s a fetish and it turns your guy on, go for it. But if it’s just something you want him to do….I just don’t get it. Don’t get me wrong, I’m all for men showing their feminine side. They shouldn’t only be full of testosterone and masculinity. Men are constantly being told that they have to be “tough” (guys, you don’t have to be) and that’s wrong, but don’t express it by doing a pedicure. I’m really curious what men think about this. The men I know (let’s put aside my gay guys) would not do it. I asked a few of them and they’re terrified (I felt relieved by this)

 

I’m trying to understand it – what is it, is it building intimacy? How? I understand massage (of every part of the body), touching, undressing, but I can’t wrap my head around this. 

 


 

It’s like I never could understand why women take their guys shopping. Then I see those guys half dead sitting on a couch (I guess it’s a special couch for unhappy men) praying for this nightmare to end. Not to mention when a woman gives her bag to her guy to carry and then he’s following her around like a shadow with her sparkling bag in his hand. Dude, please, I beg you, put it down. Don’t do it. If she can’t carry it, maybe she shouldn’t have taken it with her in the first place. 

 


 

I see a lot of couples now in which the guy is dominated by the woman. I’m all for women power and I am a strong woman myself (yes, I’m aware of that), but I would never want to dominate my man. If I dominated him, it would mean he shouldn’t be my partner. Period. I had this conversation with one of my customers recently. He said to me, after a few minutes of observations: “Did you notice that those guys are more feminine than their ladies?” And I wanted to disagree, but I couldn’t.

 


Women have their voice – and that’s great! I will be always rooting for that. But suddenly it seems that guys have lost theirs. What happened? Doing your woman’s nails or carrying her bag doesn’t make you a great partner. Guys, you don’t have to do those things to make your lady happy or more feminine. Believe me, there are other ways (starting in the bedroom) to prove to your woman that you are the man that she wants. Please guys, find your voice, because I don’t want to live in a world where men become girlfriends. We have our gays for that. And I ask you, ladies, get your shit together and let your mabe a man. And find yourself a girlfriend.



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