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Don’t judge by the chapter you walked into.
It’s a new year, so I want you to change one thing. I would say “we,” but I’ve already been working on it the last two years (not that I’ve mastered it yet). Don’...

Why Some Women Don’t Want to Have Kids (And Why the Reason Is Not What You Think It Is)
Yes, I want to write about it (again), because it bothers me. I recently realized I don’t want to have kids (now and maybe ever). And I realized how difficult it is for a woman not only to adm...

You’re Fine
2018 has been a very successful year for me, because I finally understand that I’m completely fine. I just look at myself and I finally see myself. It took me half my life to understand it, bu...

It’s Profound to Be Understood
As Whoopi Goldberg said in her book „If He Says: ‚You complete me’ — Run!”, which I’ve already written about on JLNY some time ago, people tend to mistake love fo...

You’re Always Becoming
Michelle Obama released her book memoir, „Becoming”, and I keep seeing it everywhere in NYC. I haven’t read it yet and now I really want to. Not because I consider Barack Obam...

Drop This Attitude
I just had my best friend Gosia visited me from Chicago a few weeks ago. We spent the whole weekend together excited about each other. We did a few activities, but what was the most important was th...

Is Your Partner’s Skin Color or Country of Origin Relevant At All?
I will answer the titular question right away: „I don’t think so”. And I’m pretty sure I am right. I honestly don’t understand this whole theory about having a partner ...

How To Get the Body You Want
Have you ever said to yourself: “I’m so fat”…? Or “I can’t even look at myself”…?. Or “I will never lose all this weight”…? Or &l...

Accept the challenge
Until now, my favorite sentence was always: “Hope he’ll change after we get married.” (Yeah,  sure, into a pumpkin…) But there is a new contender that I find equally ...

NY Love Story A.D. 2019
I don’t like romantic comedies. And I can tell you why. Once, it used to be my favorite genre, but I grew up since then (a bit). Also — I moved to NY. Romantic comedies just don’t ...

When Was the Last Time Your Journal Embarrassed You?
When was the last time you said to yourself: “This is embarrassing”, and you actually meant yourself…? Well, it just happened to me. I sat down to write about something else and I...

Why It’s Important To Not Look Like Shit
Here is my question: Why do you think it’s a good idea to look like shit at home? Some people put on their worst clothes at home - clothes with holes, stretched out, worn out, old and ugly. (B...

The Worst Type of Guy You Should Always Avoid

added: 2017-08-25 , category: It's all about sex

I recently watched one of Matthew’s Hussey’s videos (I wrote about him on Just Like NY already), and he said a very interesting thing: the most dangerous man for a woman is not a guy who comes into her life, makes empty promises and suddenly vanishes. The most dangerous man is the one who comes in, vanishes – and then keeps coming back. Then he vanishes again – and is coming back again and again.

I completely agree with that. Because somehow – I have no idea why! – women get excited every time he comes back. I would like to ask those women: Why do you get excited…? I just don’t get it. You think that “it’s a proof he missed you”? Really…? This is what you think is happening? It only proves that he’s bored, that’s it. You’re just one of his options and apparently other options weren’t available on that particular day, so he found the way back to you. He’d stay there until he gets bored and disappears again. Don’t you see that…? I always am wondering what’s going through a woman’s head (I’m a woman, but I definitely would not let any guy to toy with me like that) and why does she think she can’t get anything better.

Because it’s all about that – you let him come back, because you think you don’t deserve anything better. Deep inside, you think that this is all you can get. Had you cared about yourself more, you wouldn’t hurt yourself like that. Because this is what it is: hurting yourself. You’re happy for a bit, but then you feel disappointed, “not good enough”, and your self-esteem drops down. And every time it happens, you hit even lower. And what’s worse: you won’t give any chances to yourself to other guys, because you keep waiting for “him” to come back.

Where is sense in all of this…? Women usually explain it by saying: “He’s not that bad”, “We have history together”, “We might be together one day”. Well… no, girl, you’re wrong. What’s more – you know you’re wrong, but you pretend you don’t have that gut feeling. A guy who makes you wait for him, or wonder if he ever gets in touch with you, is simply not worth of your time. You’re wasting energy for someone who won’t give you what you truly need. He gives you a carrot on a stick (if you know what I mean by carrot…) and gives you the wrong idea of what “could happen”. I will tell you right away – nothing will happen. You’re not someone he would want to be with. That’s why the next time he texts you or calls you – don’t respond or tell him you’re seeing someone. You have to finally move on and give your attention to someone who will think about you first – and not of himself. If you don’t, you’ll find yourself in this weird place, hanging out there, not knowing who are you anymore. Just call it “Mr. Big Syndrome”. And if you don’t know who’s Mr. Big, go out and rent the complete “Sex & the City” and just watch. One advice: skip the final episode and the two movies. They’re bullshit. Mr. Big won’t ever make you happy.



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