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How Many (Facebook) Friends Do You Need?
I remember when Facebook first came into our lives, we were all kind of proud of the fact that our friend count was growing. The more there is social media in our lives, the more I real...

Are You Able To Let Your Old Self Go?
I’m lucky enough to have a few friends whom I can share my fears, tears and happy moments with. These are friends with whom I can go through any emotional rollercoaster. It’s very i...

What’s The Best Dating Advice?
There are plenty of advisors on the dating scene – there are videos and articles about every aspect of dating, with all these great pieces of advice: “What to do on a date,” “W...

What You Really Need Is A Connection…With Yourself
I lead a life that I didn’t expect to be leading right now. (No, I’m not a princess living in a castle.) Six months ago, I decided not to have internet in my apartment. I have it on my pho...

Getting You Off The Hook.
I’ve done some thinking recently and tried to figure out the basic way people come up with an excuse. It’s a broad topic, but I’ve mostly experienced one response from variety of ...

Williamsburg Is Over
Summer’s almost here, so I decided to take a walk in Williamsburg, and it just reassured me that… thinks are really over for this neighborhood. I moved to Greenpoint (a sister neighbor...

Where is love?
Love has been on my mind recently (and probably has been unconsciously for a while now) and I started thinking about where to find it. I know it’s a pretty odd thing (you can&rsqu...

It’s Your Man Or...Your Girlfriend?
I recently noticed a very scary pattern, and I’m wondering what is causing it. I’ve noticed that women are a bit lost and confused as to what kind of partner they want to have by thei...

Should I Dump Him?
I was just sitting in the sauna at my gym last week, and I couldn’t help but overheard the conversation of two women around my age (even though I was trying very hard to focus on the guys in spe...

We all pretend it’s normal…
We all pretend that life in NY is normal. Just today I had the day off, which isn’t usually for a Thursday, and I decided to go to the gym before noon. I got on a train at 10am and...

What If I Told You That You Can Have a Different Life?
I know I will sound very naïve now, but I had a recent revelation I would like to share with you. I started thinking about the choices we make and why we actually make them. Those who have rea...

Poor Rich Kids
I have mentioned money in NYC on Just Like NY a few times already. There is a lot of money here, and people spend lots of it on a variety of weird and stupid things sometimes....

Step 49 - What’s Your Next Step After You’ve Failed?

added: 2017-11-24 , category: Transform Yourself

My spinning instructor keeps saying: “It’s not important what you do when you’re strong; the most important thing is what you do when you have no strength at all”. And every time I finish his class (once or twice a week), I keep thinking about this sentence. It’s a very important question. What do you do when you fail? It’s good when we keep the ball rolling, when we’re hyped, when everything is going according to our plan – everything seems so easy then. But what happens when you have this bad day when nothing goes according to your plan? You wanted to work out, eat healthy, send some resumes, complete a few tasks that you keep postponing and… you didn’t do any of that. Instead, you spent a lot of time on social media, eating crap and thinking about your ex-boyfriend (“maybe we should be together, after all?”).  And you did the same thing the next day, and the next day. And you start feeling like a failure. And that’s the worst state you can put yourself into. Once you get yourself in the state like that for a few days (or weeks!), it’s really difficult to get out of it. So what do you do then…?

I get into this state, too (not that often, but it still happens) and I noticed that there are two things that always work for me. One of them is seeing a friend. Not a friend who will start complaining or whining with you – I don’t like friends like that, I don’t need friends like that. Instead, I mean seeing a friend who will put things in a perspective for you. Who will be able to lift you up. Who will listen and give you a decent advice, who will make you feel better about yourself. Friends are always the best remedy. That’s why I find friendships so crucial to one’s life; you have to really take care of them, regardless of your relationship status.

The second thing I do is going out among people. That’s why I love living in NY, because (if you want to), you can be always surrounded with people. Somehow people’s energy and their noise helps me. It distracts my mind from stupid things and puts it back into a right place. Plus, when I’m surrounded with people, there is always something interesting happening. Only yesterday I was in this weird state and I just went to a coffee shop to write and two girls came with a dog (I don’t know why the dog was there, since it’s not allowed, but maybe they had some kind of “service dog” badge that you can easily buy here). Since I was sitting on a couch, the dog jumped next to me and was cuddling with my sweater. Those who know me know that there is nothing else in this world that I love more than dogs. And it just made me happy. A small thing like that can put you in a different state right away.

What also always works for me is a good workout. It changes my thinking and it gives me this extra strength. I’m a huge believer that your body can change your mind. As Tony Robbins says: Motion creates emotion.

Find your way of escaping this miserable state. As soon as it happens to you, do all you have to do to change it. Don’t stay there. I know it’s an easy way out, but don’t do it. I know you really prefer to stay there (I know you do!), but it will just not help you. It will just make things worse. Stay there for a day or two if you have to, but then just take some action to change it. Find you outlet, find things that help you change your reality. Because when reality hits you hard, you have to know how to defend yourself. You can win this battle. You just have to gather your tools and fight for it. Whatever you do - don’t give up upon yourself.

 

 

 

 



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