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Don’t judge by the chapter you walked into.
It’s a new year, so I want you to change one thing. I would say “we,” but I’ve already been working on it the last two years (not that I’ve mastered it yet). Don’...

Why Some Women Don’t Want to Have Kids (And Why the Reason Is Not What You Think It Is)
Yes, I want to write about it (again), because it bothers me. I recently realized I don’t want to have kids (now and maybe ever). And I realized how difficult it is for a woman not only to adm...

You’re Fine
2018 has been a very successful year for me, because I finally understand that I’m completely fine. I just look at myself and I finally see myself. It took me half my life to understand it, bu...

It’s Profound to Be Understood
As Whoopi Goldberg said in her book „If He Says: ‚You complete me’ — Run!”, which I’ve already written about on JLNY some time ago, people tend to mistake love fo...

You’re Always Becoming
Michelle Obama released her book memoir, „Becoming”, and I keep seeing it everywhere in NYC. I haven’t read it yet and now I really want to. Not because I consider Barack Obam...

Drop This Attitude
I just had my best friend Gosia visited me from Chicago a few weeks ago. We spent the whole weekend together excited about each other. We did a few activities, but what was the most important was th...

Is Your Partner’s Skin Color or Country of Origin Relevant At All?
I will answer the titular question right away: „I don’t think so”. And I’m pretty sure I am right. I honestly don’t understand this whole theory about having a partner ...

How To Get the Body You Want
Have you ever said to yourself: “I’m so fat”…? Or “I can’t even look at myself”…?. Or “I will never lose all this weight”…? Or &l...

Accept the challenge
Until now, my favorite sentence was always: “Hope he’ll change after we get married.” (Yeah,  sure, into a pumpkin…) But there is a new contender that I find equally ...

NY Love Story A.D. 2019
I don’t like romantic comedies. And I can tell you why. Once, it used to be my favorite genre, but I grew up since then (a bit). Also — I moved to NY. Romantic comedies just don’t ...

When Was the Last Time Your Journal Embarrassed You?
When was the last time you said to yourself: “This is embarrassing”, and you actually meant yourself…? Well, it just happened to me. I sat down to write about something else and I...

Why It’s Important To Not Look Like Shit
Here is my question: Why do you think it’s a good idea to look like shit at home? Some people put on their worst clothes at home - clothes with holes, stretched out, worn out, old and ugly. (B...

Where I Am Now and Where I Want To Be

added: 2017-11-05 , category: Transform Yourself

Photo by Janusz Tomczyk, www.wdkproductions.com

Since I keep saying that you should follow your dreams and that I believe you can get what you envision for yourself (or, to put it simply – the story you’re telling yourself is the life you’re living), I want to be a living example of that. i just want to prove to you that everything is possible. I want to be accountable for my own words and my own actions.

I do say these things because I believe they’re true. And if I believe they’re true, I should have the life I imagined for myself, right? Do I have it…? Not yet, but I believe I will, because whatever I’ve got right now, is exactly what I wanted to have 5 years ago, before I moved to NY. I wanted: to live in NY (done), to afford living in Brooklyn (done), to write (done), to explore and have fun in NY (done), to have friends in NY (done), to go to California (done), to surf (done). These were my goals five years ago. And I’m proud to say I accomplished them.

And now, five years later, I have new goals, of course.  I’m changing, so my goals are changing, too. But there are a few things that are still on my list that I haven’t accomplished yet. let’s put them in the air and see what happens in a few years.

I always wanted to have a luxury life. What does that mean? It means that I wanted to go to places, stay in luxury hotels and not worry if I can afford that. I haven’t gotten there yet – I can travel twice a year (but can afford only USA for now), and have road trips meanwhile, but I can’t afford expensive hotels… yet. I also want to buy nice stuff. It doesn’t mean I want to run to Prada store every season to buy a new bag (how many bags do you need, anyway?), but I do want to own good-quality stuff. And I want to be able to afford it before I turn 38.

I want to live in SoHo with my partner. And that’s a goal for the next two years. I live in far Brooklyn with a roommate now. 2019 is the latest I want to live in my favorite neighborhood in Manhattan. How can I do it? No idea, but I know I will figure that out.

I want to make money on my blog and my writing. I don’t make money on it yet, but I know I will. Making money on my website was never my priority, I just had and still have this huge desire to write and I knew I’d be doing that no matter what. But now it became my priority, because I want to make money on my passion. People do it, so can I too. I just don’t want to spend eight hours a day doing things (that are called “a job”) that are not my passion. It’s just a waste of life.

I want to surf around the world.

And as I mentioned above, yes, I do want to have a partner, someone who inspires me. It wasn’t my priority, either, but I put it on my list now. But what changed in me is who I want to be with. I always said that I wanted to be with someone “who has a great potential”. And that’s very nice of me, but it’s not my thinking anymore. Potential is still just potential. I want a partner who is accomplished and is doing the work. A wise guy who improves something he’s already established or is reaching out for new stuff. If I can put in the work and get where I want to, he has to be like that, too. Otherwise I’m not interested.

Summary – starting from 2019, I want to have a luxury life, live in SoHo, make money of my passion, surf and have an established and wise partner. You can call me crazy, or naïve and I will just say – see you in 2019. Am I not afraid to put this list online? No, I’m not.

Make your list soon. And most importantly – believe in your vision. Who cares what others think? The most important thing is what you think about it. And even more important is what are you planning on doing about it?



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