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Step 61 - Find Your Lifestyle
As I said in one of my recent posts – the world has changed and the way we live has changed. I honestly think it’s time to reevaluate some ideas and solutions about the life we want to l...

Do you even want to get married?
I’ve been thinking a lot about marriage recently (not about my own), because suddenly I spend a lot of time talking to married guys (just as friends). And I started to come...

What Does It Mean To Be Successful? My Five Years In NYC
It’s been five years since I decided to live in NY. These were five difficult years, and yet ones filled many amazing moments and great people I’ve met along the way. But five years i...

Step 60 - What Does It Really Mean To Leave Your Comfort Zone?
“Leaving the comfort zone” became a very common phrase these past few years. It is associated with the idea of breaking free from the life you’ve had so far – with sta...

Choose Your Own Relationship
I’m single so – naturally – I do think about guys and relationships. I’ve been thinking a lot of what type of a guy would actually make me want to be in a relationship. An...

Step 59 - How Many (Facebook) Friends Do You Need?
  I remember when Facebook first came into our lives, we were all kind of proud of the fact that our friend count was growing. The more there is social media in our lives, th...

Step 58 - Are You Able To Let Your Old Self Go?
I’m lucky enough to have a few friends whom I can share my fears, tears and happy moments with. These are friends with whom I can go through any emotional rollercoaster. It’s very...

What’s The Best Dating Advice?
  There are plenty of advisors on the dating scene – there are videos and articles about every aspect of dating, with all these great pieces of advice: “What to do on a date,&rd...

Step 57 - What You Really Need Is A Connection…With Yourself
I lead a life that I didn’t expect to be leading right now. (No, I’m not a princess living in a castle.) Six months ago, I decided not to have internet in my apartment. I have it on my p...

Step 56 - Getting You Off The Hook.
I’ve done some thinking recently and tried to figure out the basic way people come up with an excuse. It’s a broad topic, but I’ve mostly experienced one response from variety o...

Williamsburg Is Over
Summer’s almost here, so I decided to take a walk in Williamsburg, and it just reassured me that… thinks are really over for this neighborhood. I moved to Greenpoint (a sister neighb...

Where is love?
  Love has been on my mind recently (and probably has been unconsciously for a while now) and I started thinking about where to find it. I know it’s a pretty odd thing (...

Step 43: Have the Courage to Stand Alone

added: 2017-10-06 , category: Transform Yourself

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I heard this sentence: “Have the courage to stand alone”, spoken by Brene Brown in a conversation with Marie Forleo a few weeks ago, and it keeps ringing in my head.

This post is not for everyone, because not everyone will truly understand it. That is simply because not everyone needs this something extra in their lives that is so difficult to define. 

Most people have similar dreams and goals: like being in a relationship, travelling, making a lot of money, having kids, being able to afford expensive stuff. But there is also another group of people – like me – who wants something more. And it doesn’t mean we want more of what I just mentioned. No, we might not even want the things listed above. We want something different out of this life – and it doesn’t have a definition, because it varies for each of us.

We have this urge inside of us that keeps us going – our passion; our huge desire to achieve something that’s truly important to us. We have this deep desire to fulfill our goal. We constantly keep our eyes on our prize. Our passion became our life and we won’t stop until we succeed. Had you never had anything that you think about as soon as you wake up, that you deeply care about, that makes your heart run like crazy and makes you the happiest person in the world – you will never understand what I’m talking about.

I don’t have a baby, so I can’t understand what it feels like; I never lost anyone who was really close to me, so I have no idea what it feels like. If you’ve never lived an immigrant, there is no way you’d understand what’s going on through our heads and it’s the same with this urgent feeling I’m trying to explain to you. If you have never felt this weird feeling inside that is stronger than anything else – you cannot possibly understand my choices.

We simply have to fulfill our path and go our own way. It’s difficult, because you sacrifice many things along the way without any guarantee of succeeding. But do it regardless of the outcome, because this is who you are.  You have to stay confident and strong in order to not to get discouraged by all the people along the way who doubt you or make fun of you. You have to get used to the fact that there are people who would just never get what you are about – and it’s not their fault.  They have never felt what you feel, so you can’t expect them to follow your path.

I strongly believe I can change people’s lives, because I went through some dark moments myself. I feel capable to lead some of you onto your journey, learning along the way with you. And I finally stopped expecting that everyone would get it. It’s something that I have to do.

I’m writing this post not to get your approval, because at this point I don’t need any approval anymore. I’m writing this post to give some of you some courage so that you don’t stop. Some of you have doubts and find it difficult because of what others think about it. Please, don’t pay attention to all that noise. Instead, find strength to keep going. And if it’s necessary – find the courage to stand alone. Being by yourself, but on the right path, is more important than being surrounded by people on the path that you don’t really belong to.

It won’t be easy; it will be painful sometimes. You will feel misunderstood most of the times, but please keep in mind that there are people who get you; who know exactly why you’re doing this and where are you going. Take some courage from them and never give up. Because losing yourself is way more painful than getting approval from someone who never understood you in the first place.



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