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Don’t judge by the chapter you walked into.
It’s a new year, so I want you to change one thing. I would say “we,” but I’ve already been working on it the last two years (not that I’ve mastered it yet). Don’...

Why Some Women Don’t Want to Have Kids (And Why the Reason Is Not What You Think It Is)
Yes, I want to write about it (again), because it bothers me. I recently realized I don’t want to have kids (now and maybe ever). And I realized how difficult it is for a woman not only to adm...

You’re Fine
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It’s Profound to Be Understood
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You’re Always Becoming
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Drop This Attitude
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Is Your Partner’s Skin Color or Country of Origin Relevant At All?
I will answer the titular question right away: „I don’t think so”. And I’m pretty sure I am right. I honestly don’t understand this whole theory about having a partner ...

How To Get the Body You Want
Have you ever said to yourself: “I’m so fat”…? Or “I can’t even look at myself”…?. Or “I will never lose all this weight”…? Or &l...

Accept the challenge
Until now, my favorite sentence was always: “Hope he’ll change after we get married.” (Yeah,  sure, into a pumpkin…) But there is a new contender that I find equally ...

NY Love Story A.D. 2019
I don’t like romantic comedies. And I can tell you why. Once, it used to be my favorite genre, but I grew up since then (a bit). Also — I moved to NY. Romantic comedies just don’t ...

When Was the Last Time Your Journal Embarrassed You?
When was the last time you said to yourself: “This is embarrassing”, and you actually meant yourself…? Well, it just happened to me. I sat down to write about something else and I...

Why It’s Important To Not Look Like Shit
Here is my question: Why do you think it’s a good idea to look like shit at home? Some people put on their worst clothes at home - clothes with holes, stretched out, worn out, old and ugly. (B...

Step 42 – How do we not go crazy?

added: 2017-09-29 , category: Transform Yourself

It’s very easy to go crazy in NY. It’s way too easy. That’s why at some point, you have to slow down and ask yourself how your mind is doing. There are a few different ways I maintain my mental health, and I wanted to share them with you.


1. Number one is definitely working out. That’s why it’s my priority. Not having too much fat on my body is one reason, but working out is so much more than that. It helps me to keep my mind focused, helps me to relax, gets rid of stress, changes the chemistry of my brain and makes me happy. Being in shape is just a side effect.

2. Going for long walks. I do this very often. They say that long walks in nature help you stay healthy. I not only go for long walks on my beach (it’s saved me many times already), but I also go for long walks in Manhattan. I know it’s a concrete jungle, but I always explore so I keep my mind open and curious. And that’s probably why it always relaxes me and makes me feel like I just visited a new city. 

3. Shifting my focus. I strongly believe that you get what you focus on. So what I always try to do is keep my mind positive. I’m not an idiot and I’m not that naïve - I don’t think that everything is amazing. I keep things real in my life, but I also choose to focus on the bright side. There is no need to think that something might go wrong (because it eventually will, if you think like that). Whenever a negative thought comes into my head, I brush it off and put my mind in a different, better place. It always works. And when it’s difficult for me to shift my focus, I reach out for my motivation help that I’ve written about before here in Just Like NY.

4. I give myself small pleasures. I go to coffee shops, bakeries, new spots with something good to eat or drink (but I’m not talking about alcohol - I’m thinking more of matcha latte). I will sit and relax and enjoy all these goodies. It just makes me happy and helps me to slow down. I also go to the movies or attend other cultural events. I make my life enjoyable. I moved to NY to have moments like that. I try not to be trapped in the same routine all the time.

5. I calm my mind down. I usually do it with moments of silence, meditation or just listening to music. I light the candles, turn the devices off and let my brain fly. I usually do it an hour before I go to sleep. (I just started to be consistent with that - I used to only do it once in a blue moon.) Meditation can be a lot of things. It’s not only about sitting down in a lotus position. I lay or sit on my bed, set a timer for 10 minutes and close my eyes. It really feels good. I want to start my day like that too, but as of now, I’m afraid I would fall asleep again. But I will work on it, like I work on everything else in my life.  


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