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Step 51 - What Should Be Your Main 2018 Goal?
Some people hesitate to set any New Year goals and resolution for themselves; they just find them stupid. I can understand that. But then some others – like me – take them seriously, be...

I Can’t Help Women if They Don’t Want to Help Themselves
Ladies, I can’t cope with you. I really can’t, not anymore. I keep hearing women complaining about men. They complain how badly men treat them, how terribly guys behave towards them, wha...

How To Say Goodbye To the Old Year?
My goodbye to the year that has just ended usually takes on a form of a few hour session with myself. What I usually do is I take my list of goals I set for myself at the beginning of the year to di...

What Does It Mean To Be a True Gentleman
One of my male friends sent me an article arguing that chivalry is not dead and that there are true gentlemen out there who would “make us melt”. The article presented us with 9 things t...

How do I conquer fear?
Fear rules our lives, whether you want to admit it or not. All of your decisions are based on fear. All of your choices are rooted in your fears. You don’t apply for a j...

Step 51- What does it take for you to understand what it’s all about?
I just finished Tim Ferriss’ book, “Tribe of Mentors,” and one of the people featured in his book is a woman named Turia Pitt. I haven’t looked up every p...

Step 50 - Slow Down (Daga). Speed Detox
I just had a few days off. And I was so excited about these days off that I have been coming up with different ideas on how to spend them. I had new ideas almost every day before that week finall...

What changed in me after Tony Robbins’ workshops?
  In March 2016, I attended Tony Robbins’ Unleash the Power workshops. I wasn’t going to write about it at all, since I didn’t know what people would think, ...

When I know you’re not a New Yorker?
  I think I’m becoming an expert at recognizing real New Yorkers. What do I mean by that? I love watching people, taking notice of their behaviors and habits. That means I watch New Yo...

“I’m Not…”…? I say It’s Bullshit
I think that many people have no idea how important it is to pay attention the words you use. I believe I have written about that on Just Like NY already, but it’s important to keep talking abo...

Body – dangerous field
This is a difficult topic, but I still want to write about it: body and body image. We all know how the media treats our bodies and what kind of body image is presented to us. I’ve written about...

Step 49 - What’s Your Next Step After You’ve Failed?
My spinning instructor keeps saying: “It’s not important what you do when you’re strong; the most important thing is what you do when you have no strength at all”. And every...

Step 34 - Transformation.

added: 2017-07-17 , category: Transform Yourself

I just finished reading a book “Brave enough” by Cheryl Strayed, in which she says something that moved me: “Transformation doesn’t ask that you stop being you. It demands that you find a way back to the authenticity and strengths that’s already inside of you. You only have to bloom”.

It’s a beautiful quote that underlines important things about the process of transformation. People somehow think that transformation means “becoming someone else” and that’s completely wrong. Transformation means that you finally become whom you always have been, deep inside you. It is not about change; I consider it more of a rebirth. I believe that transformation really happens when you come back to your “child state”; the one that you had as a small child before the awareness of this world and of the society’s rules took over your life.

But in order to get there, you’d have to enter a path that leads through really shitty things that you’re so afraid of. You would have to look deep inside you, process the things that hurt you and those that make you really, really uncomfortable. That’s why so many people prefer to stay within their comfort zone and never change anything. Because why would you want to go through that whereas you can sit in this comfortable armchair you’ve been sitting for many years now? It may be old and used already, but it’s familiar and safe. Why should you change that? I can’t answer this question for you. I can answer it for myself; I know why I needed to go through that. I just wanted to be the same free, unstoppable, no-boundaries-attached girl whom I was when I was 5 years old (I still have a video footage from that time and it always blows my mind).

And I just really wanted to get out of my own head. I wanted to stop overthinking things and connect with myself again. And I hadn’t done it for years. Yes, I was happy, but I felt that something was missing. And I’m not talking about this void that we are all try to fill up, I was really missing this true connection with my core, I didn’t know if I knew whom I was anymore. There are just too many distractions on regular basis that keep you away from yourself, especially when you live in NY. I felt like I was getting further and further away from myself – which is funny considering how many communication tools we have right now.

Maybe you don’t need the transformation; maybe you’re truly yourself and you’ve always been – good for you! I’m really happy for you. I know I’m getting there now, after all these years. And I can’t wait to become myself…again! But if you feel like you need to come back to your core, please, enter this path. It will change everything and it will make you feel light and alive. No, you won’t like it, but you will love the final effect.

 

Look at your photos from your childhood when you were 5-6 years old. Do you still recognize the child in the picture…? Can you feel it within?



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