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The Bridges of Madison County - A Cautionary Tale
I’ve been coming back to old movies recently and watched one of my favorite movies of all time – “The Bridges of Madison County” with my favorite actress, Meryl Str...

Brooklyn vs. Manhattan
It’s funny how Manhattan and Brooklyn are different, even though they are only a river away. They are actually just one subway stop away (which is a few minutes’ distance). A lot of peop...

Women’s Surf Film Festival
I finally attended Women’s Surf Film Festival that took place at Rockaway Beach Surf Club on the last Friday and Saturday of July. I didn’t see all the movies (they’re mostly short...

Birthday
35 years ago, a miracle happened and I came into this world. And everything changed. I’m kidding. Nothing changed, except for the fact that the world got a bit confused. When I was a little ...

Yelp & Health
If you are running a restaurant business in NYC, you always fear of two things: Health Department and Yelp reviews. Health Department comes to a restaurant once a year and checks everything &ndash...

Racism Is Still Alive
I just had a chance to watch a new movie called “Crown Heights” and I must say it was a really painful screening for me. Had I watched it back in Poland, I would probably look at it as j...

Trends for Life
September just started and brought with it not only Pumpkin Spice Latte (of which I wrote a year ago on Just Like NY), but also some “trends” for this Fall and Winter. And I guess for li...

Step 40 – Do You Always Need To Change?
I keep writing about change and about how important it is to work on yourself in order to become the best version of oneself, but I also believe that there are times that you really shouldn’t ...

The Worst Type of Guy You Should Always Avoid
I recently watched one of Matthew’s Hussey’s videos (I wrote about him on Just Like NY already), and he said a very interesting thing: the most dangerous man for a woman is not a guy who...

Step 39: The Map of Happiness
Do you think that something like a map of happiness really exists…? I believe it does. I just watched an interview (on Impact Theory again; which is the YouTube channel I mentioned you a few ...

NY ID CARD
NY is full of paradoxes, as is the whole United States. You can clearly see it just about every situation when you have to deal with something “official”. Last year, NY mayor De Blassio ...

Step 38 – Don’t give up on this year yet
  We are in the middle of August and that means that over 7 months of this year are gone. But the good news is that 5 of them are still left. It’s almost half of the year! 5 months is roug...

Step 34 - Transformation.

added: 2017-07-17 , category: Transform Yourself

I just finished reading a book “Brave enough” by Cheryl Strayed, in which she says something that moved me: “Transformation doesn’t ask that you stop being you. It demands that you find a way back to the authenticity and strengths that’s already inside of you. You only have to bloom”.

It’s a beautiful quote that underlines important things about the process of transformation. People somehow think that transformation means “becoming someone else” and that’s completely wrong. Transformation means that you finally become whom you always have been, deep inside you. It is not about change; I consider it more of a rebirth. I believe that transformation really happens when you come back to your “child state”; the one that you had as a small child before the awareness of this world and of the society’s rules took over your life.

But in order to get there, you’d have to enter a path that leads through really shitty things that you’re so afraid of. You would have to look deep inside you, process the things that hurt you and those that make you really, really uncomfortable. That’s why so many people prefer to stay within their comfort zone and never change anything. Because why would you want to go through that whereas you can sit in this comfortable armchair you’ve been sitting for many years now? It may be old and used already, but it’s familiar and safe. Why should you change that? I can’t answer this question for you. I can answer it for myself; I know why I needed to go through that. I just wanted to be the same free, unstoppable, no-boundaries-attached girl whom I was when I was 5 years old (I still have a video footage from that time and it always blows my mind).

And I just really wanted to get out of my own head. I wanted to stop overthinking things and connect with myself again. And I hadn’t done it for years. Yes, I was happy, but I felt that something was missing. And I’m not talking about this void that we are all try to fill up, I was really missing this true connection with my core, I didn’t know if I knew whom I was anymore. There are just too many distractions on regular basis that keep you away from yourself, especially when you live in NY. I felt like I was getting further and further away from myself – which is funny considering how many communication tools we have right now.

Maybe you don’t need the transformation; maybe you’re truly yourself and you’ve always been – good for you! I’m really happy for you. I know I’m getting there now, after all these years. And I can’t wait to become myself…again! But if you feel like you need to come back to your core, please, enter this path. It will change everything and it will make you feel light and alive. No, you won’t like it, but you will love the final effect.

 

Look at your photos from your childhood when you were 5-6 years old. Do you still recognize the child in the picture…? Can you feel it within?



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