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Step 37 – Don’t give up on this year yet
  We are in the middle of August and that means that over 7 months of this year are gone. But the good news is that 5 of them are still left. It’s almost half of the year! 5 months is roug...

10 Types of Most Annoying Subway People I See Every Day:
1.        First of all, I think that a person who gets on a train and keeps their backpack on (when it’s crowded) should be slapped in the face right away. What&rs...

Come For A Walk With Me, Part 2: Dumbo, Brooklyn Bridge Park
This is definitely one of my favorite walks in NY and it always makes me fall in love with NY again. Take the F train and get off at York St. station in Brooklyn. You’re in Dumbo now (I wrote ab...

Step 37 - How Can You Convince Someone To Change?
We all know this situation: someone is stuck with a wrong partner and you want them to finally end their nightmare, or someone is struggling with something (weight/ money problems/ family problems)....

Surfing
When I was a kid, I remember watching people surfing on TV (where else could I have watched them, growing up in Poland…?) and dreaming to be like them one day. Then, soon after I graduated, I...

Step 36 - Be a Doer
There is this great app ad on the subway that always makes me smile. It says: “In doers we trust”. And I always think the same thing: “Yes, it’s always up to the doers”...

My Four Years in NY
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Step 35 - Get Yourself Motivated
I listened to an interesting interview some time ago, in which a girl from a small village asked what to do to get yourself motivated if you can’t motivate yourself and you don’t have pe...

Paul Nicklen Gallery
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Step 34 - Transformation.
I just finished reading a book “Brave enough” by Cheryl Strayed, in which she says something that moved me: “Transformation doesn’t ask that you stop being you. It demands th...

When Is the Right Time To Say No To a Guy?
The great thing about getting older is that your brain keeps working better and better. You finally see certain connections occur and you don’t do as many stupid things that end up hurting you...

Step 33 - There is Nothing Between Me and Me
I can truly say that I love myself. Or maybe even that I’m in love with myself. And before you think or say that I’m shallow or narcissistic (which completely missed my point), I’l...

Step 33 - There is Nothing Between Me and Me

added: 2017-07-08 , category: Transform Yourself

I can truly say that I love myself. Or maybe even that I’m in love with myself. And before you think or say that I’m shallow or narcissistic (which completely missed my point), I’ll explain to you why loving yourself first should be your priority. My friend Michal once laughed at me that a title of my future book will be: “There is Nothing Between Me and Me”. Because this where I got with myself – I just FINALLY like myself a lot and fully accept myself (I wrote about it on Just Like NY just recently).

OMG… finally!!! I wake up and I smile to myself (maybe not every day, but most of the days). Even when I look like crap, I tell myself that tomorrow my face will change for the better (at least I hope for that). Even when I’m not satisfied with my body (around period time), I put my hand on my stomach saying: “You’ll be smaller one day”. Yes, I love myself. I watched Gary Vaynerchuk’s video recently (you can check him out, he cuts through the bullshit just the way I like it @garyvee) and he said the thing that is exactly in my head: “I love myself, but I love other people the same way”. It’s exactly what I think – my love for myself is not selfish, it’s not this kind of love that makes me think I’m the best of all. It actually means the opposite. Now, since I cut the bullshit about figuring out what to be like, how to look better, how to behave so that everyone likes me, I can finally focus on things that really matter to me. 

When you start loving yourself, your life simply changes. You start seeing different things and look at other things differently. You stop being your own obsession, you stop being the center of your own world, because you know that you’ll be just fine. You don’t fight your imperfections anymore and notice that life is about something else. It sounds like a paradox, but because you love yourself, you love others more. When you love yourself, you can give more to others – and this is exactly what I want to do in my life. Nothing (NOTHING) would make me happier than knowing that someone changed his/her opinion about themselves, their lives, that someone changed or decided to chase their dreams, because I inspired him/her to do so. Oh, I wish I had this knowledge 10 years ago… But what can I do now that it finally came to me, is to share it.

So do me a favor and when you see someone who is happy about themselves, don’t be sarcastic or mean, just be happy for that person. It takes a lot of work and courage to fully accept yourself. And it takes some guts not to worry about other people’s opinions about your choices, your life or your body. Don’t look towards what others do, don’t judge them; just shift your focus onto yourself first and do some work to like yourself more. The reward is greater than you think. And a new life for you is just the beginning. 



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