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The Bridges of Madison County - A Cautionary Tale
I’ve been coming back to old movies recently and watched one of my favorite movies of all time – “The Bridges of Madison County” with my favorite actress, Meryl Str...

Brooklyn vs. Manhattan
It’s funny how Manhattan and Brooklyn are different, even though they are only a river away. They are actually just one subway stop away (which is a few minutes’ distance). A lot of peop...

Women’s Surf Film Festival
I finally attended Women’s Surf Film Festival that took place at Rockaway Beach Surf Club on the last Friday and Saturday of July. I didn’t see all the movies (they’re mostly short...

Birthday
35 years ago, a miracle happened and I came into this world. And everything changed. I’m kidding. Nothing changed, except for the fact that the world got a bit confused. When I was a little ...

Yelp & Health
If you are running a restaurant business in NYC, you always fear of two things: Health Department and Yelp reviews. Health Department comes to a restaurant once a year and checks everything &ndash...

Racism Is Still Alive
I just had a chance to watch a new movie called “Crown Heights” and I must say it was a really painful screening for me. Had I watched it back in Poland, I would probably look at it as j...

Trends for Life
September just started and brought with it not only Pumpkin Spice Latte (of which I wrote a year ago on Just Like NY), but also some “trends” for this Fall and Winter. And I guess for li...

Step 40 – Do You Always Need To Change?
I keep writing about change and about how important it is to work on yourself in order to become the best version of oneself, but I also believe that there are times that you really shouldn’t ...

The Worst Type of Guy You Should Always Avoid
I recently watched one of Matthew’s Hussey’s videos (I wrote about him on Just Like NY already), and he said a very interesting thing: the most dangerous man for a woman is not a guy who...

Step 39: The Map of Happiness
Do you think that something like a map of happiness really exists…? I believe it does. I just watched an interview (on Impact Theory again; which is the YouTube channel I mentioned you a few ...

NY ID CARD
NY is full of paradoxes, as is the whole United States. You can clearly see it just about every situation when you have to deal with something “official”. Last year, NY mayor De Blassio ...

Step 38 – Don’t give up on this year yet
  We are in the middle of August and that means that over 7 months of this year are gone. But the good news is that 5 of them are still left. It’s almost half of the year! 5 months is roug...

Step 33 - There is Nothing Between Me and Me

added: 2017-07-08 , category: Transform Yourself

I can truly say that I love myself. Or maybe even that I’m in love with myself. And before you think or say that I’m shallow or narcissistic (which completely missed my point), I’ll explain to you why loving yourself first should be your priority. My friend Michal once laughed at me that a title of my future book will be: “There is Nothing Between Me and Me”. Because this where I got with myself – I just FINALLY like myself a lot and fully accept myself (I wrote about it on Just Like NY just recently).

OMG… finally!!! I wake up and I smile to myself (maybe not every day, but most of the days). Even when I look like crap, I tell myself that tomorrow my face will change for the better (at least I hope for that). Even when I’m not satisfied with my body (around period time), I put my hand on my stomach saying: “You’ll be smaller one day”. Yes, I love myself. I watched Gary Vaynerchuk’s video recently (you can check him out, he cuts through the bullshit just the way I like it @garyvee) and he said the thing that is exactly in my head: “I love myself, but I love other people the same way”. It’s exactly what I think – my love for myself is not selfish, it’s not this kind of love that makes me think I’m the best of all. It actually means the opposite. Now, since I cut the bullshit about figuring out what to be like, how to look better, how to behave so that everyone likes me, I can finally focus on things that really matter to me. 

When you start loving yourself, your life simply changes. You start seeing different things and look at other things differently. You stop being your own obsession, you stop being the center of your own world, because you know that you’ll be just fine. You don’t fight your imperfections anymore and notice that life is about something else. It sounds like a paradox, but because you love yourself, you love others more. When you love yourself, you can give more to others – and this is exactly what I want to do in my life. Nothing (NOTHING) would make me happier than knowing that someone changed his/her opinion about themselves, their lives, that someone changed or decided to chase their dreams, because I inspired him/her to do so. Oh, I wish I had this knowledge 10 years ago… But what can I do now that it finally came to me, is to share it.

So do me a favor and when you see someone who is happy about themselves, don’t be sarcastic or mean, just be happy for that person. It takes a lot of work and courage to fully accept yourself. And it takes some guts not to worry about other people’s opinions about your choices, your life or your body. Don’t look towards what others do, don’t judge them; just shift your focus onto yourself first and do some work to like yourself more. The reward is greater than you think. And a new life for you is just the beginning. 



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