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Step 51 - What Should Be Your Main 2018 Goal?
Some people hesitate to set any New Year goals and resolution for themselves; they just find them stupid. I can understand that. But then some others – like me – take them seriously, be...

I Can’t Help Women if They Don’t Want to Help Themselves
Ladies, I can’t cope with you. I really can’t, not anymore. I keep hearing women complaining about men. They complain how badly men treat them, how terribly guys behave towards them, wha...

How To Say Goodbye To the Old Year?
My goodbye to the year that has just ended usually takes on a form of a few hour session with myself. What I usually do is I take my list of goals I set for myself at the beginning of the year to di...

What Does It Mean To Be a True Gentleman
One of my male friends sent me an article arguing that chivalry is not dead and that there are true gentlemen out there who would “make us melt”. The article presented us with 9 things t...

How do I conquer fear?
Fear rules our lives, whether you want to admit it or not. All of your decisions are based on fear. All of your choices are rooted in your fears. You don’t apply for a j...

Step 51- What does it take for you to understand what it’s all about?
I just finished Tim Ferriss’ book, “Tribe of Mentors,” and one of the people featured in his book is a woman named Turia Pitt. I haven’t looked up every p...

Step 50 - Slow Down (Daga). Speed Detox
I just had a few days off. And I was so excited about these days off that I have been coming up with different ideas on how to spend them. I had new ideas almost every day before that week finall...

What changed in me after Tony Robbins’ workshops?
  In March 2016, I attended Tony Robbins’ Unleash the Power workshops. I wasn’t going to write about it at all, since I didn’t know what people would think, ...

When I know you’re not a New Yorker?
  I think I’m becoming an expert at recognizing real New Yorkers. What do I mean by that? I love watching people, taking notice of their behaviors and habits. That means I watch New Yo...

“I’m Not…”…? I say It’s Bullshit
I think that many people have no idea how important it is to pay attention the words you use. I believe I have written about that on Just Like NY already, but it’s important to keep talking abo...

Body – dangerous field
This is a difficult topic, but I still want to write about it: body and body image. We all know how the media treats our bodies and what kind of body image is presented to us. I’ve written about...

Step 49 - What’s Your Next Step After You’ve Failed?
My spinning instructor keeps saying: “It’s not important what you do when you’re strong; the most important thing is what you do when you have no strength at all”. And every...

Step 33 - There is Nothing Between Me and Me

added: 2017-07-08 , category: Transform Yourself

I can truly say that I love myself. Or maybe even that I’m in love with myself. And before you think or say that I’m shallow or narcissistic (which completely missed my point), I’ll explain to you why loving yourself first should be your priority. My friend Michal once laughed at me that a title of my future book will be: “There is Nothing Between Me and Me”. Because this where I got with myself – I just FINALLY like myself a lot and fully accept myself (I wrote about it on Just Like NY just recently).

OMG… finally!!! I wake up and I smile to myself (maybe not every day, but most of the days). Even when I look like crap, I tell myself that tomorrow my face will change for the better (at least I hope for that). Even when I’m not satisfied with my body (around period time), I put my hand on my stomach saying: “You’ll be smaller one day”. Yes, I love myself. I watched Gary Vaynerchuk’s video recently (you can check him out, he cuts through the bullshit just the way I like it @garyvee) and he said the thing that is exactly in my head: “I love myself, but I love other people the same way”. It’s exactly what I think – my love for myself is not selfish, it’s not this kind of love that makes me think I’m the best of all. It actually means the opposite. Now, since I cut the bullshit about figuring out what to be like, how to look better, how to behave so that everyone likes me, I can finally focus on things that really matter to me. 

When you start loving yourself, your life simply changes. You start seeing different things and look at other things differently. You stop being your own obsession, you stop being the center of your own world, because you know that you’ll be just fine. You don’t fight your imperfections anymore and notice that life is about something else. It sounds like a paradox, but because you love yourself, you love others more. When you love yourself, you can give more to others – and this is exactly what I want to do in my life. Nothing (NOTHING) would make me happier than knowing that someone changed his/her opinion about themselves, their lives, that someone changed or decided to chase their dreams, because I inspired him/her to do so. Oh, I wish I had this knowledge 10 years ago… But what can I do now that it finally came to me, is to share it.

So do me a favor and when you see someone who is happy about themselves, don’t be sarcastic or mean, just be happy for that person. It takes a lot of work and courage to fully accept yourself. And it takes some guts not to worry about other people’s opinions about your choices, your life or your body. Don’t look towards what others do, don’t judge them; just shift your focus onto yourself first and do some work to like yourself more. The reward is greater than you think. And a new life for you is just the beginning. 



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