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Why I Don’t Glorify Men Anymore
I’m single, so I meet men here and there, and I’ve noticed one interesting thing that has changed recently. It ...

How About My Ego?
I think of relationships a lot recently, but I reflect even more on what we were taught to think and do when it comes to men. I wrote about Matthew Hussey on Just Like NY already, he’s a relat...

Brooklyn Stories #1
As I said in my previous post, I decided to move out (I lived in my apartment for the past three years) and start fresh in a new neighborhood (I chose Greenpoint, which became a desired neighborho...

Step 48 - Love People, But Love Yourself More
photo by Janusz Tomczyk wdkproductions.com I don’t know why people, especially women, keep whining about their age and “getting older”. What I say about myself being now in my 30s...

The Rapid Change of NY
I went for a walk with my friend on the Lower East Side on Saturday night, and we felt like someone had transported us to another city. We didn’t know where we were or what had ...

Where I Am Now and Where I Want To Be
Photo by Janusz Tomczyk, www.wdkproductions.com Since I keep saying that you should follow your dreams and that I believe you can get what you envision for yourself (or, to put it simply &ndas...

Step 47 - Mindset is everything
photo by Janusz Tomczyk www.wdkproductions.com People think that if they get more things, their situation will change. More money, more opportunities, more education, more time, more cont...

Super Single
Photo by Janusz Tomczyk, www.wdkproductions.com A few days ago, I first heard the term “super single” and my first thought was – what did they came up with this time…?...

Step 46 – Be patient
If someone asked me to choose only one thing as my most valuable lesson NY taught me, it would have to be – being patient. I’m so happy I finally learned this ve...

Step 45 – You Decide
I recently watched a baking show on Netflix. It’s not that I’m a baker now (in fact, it’ been a while since I baked), but I love sweets and I love creative and passionate people (t...

Step 44 - How Do You See Yourself?
photo by http://www.wdkproductions.com/ I wonder what kind of picture of yourself do you have in your own mind? I’m not asking about the one you present to the world, but about the real ...

Walk with me, Part 4 – Nolita
Nolita is right next to Soho and I was thinking of putting these two walks together – and you could do that of course – but there are just too many things to explore in each neighborhood s...

Step 30 - The Grass Is Greener…

added: 2017-06-13 , category: Transform Yourself

 I believe I wrote about the thing I am about to discuss before on Just Like NY, but I think it’s important enough to talk about it again. I bet everyone knows the quote: “The grass is greener on the other side of the fence”. I’m guilty of thinking this way myself and I have this moment every once in a while when it hits me that I’m doing that again. It doesn’t only concern the place I live in. I’ve never regretted that I live in NY (Hell, no! there wasn’t a single day that I regretted my decision to live in the Big Apple!), but like everyone, I have these tendencies to forget how much I already have. I visited California a month ago for the first time and caught myself thinking that maybe I should move over there right away, because it’s an amazing place. And I had to pinch myself, because the place I live in right now is also amazing! (It’s one of the most remarkable cities in this world!). And suddenly I just forgot about “wanting something different”. This is a disease of our times – we keep wanting something different, because we think it’ll make us happier. We started believing that the best thing for us is still “out there”. And it doesn’t matter how much you have right now, where do you live, or what your bank account shows. And sometimes you’re right – there are better things out there for you, there’re better places to live in, better ways to live your life and there’re better guys to be with. And I will always encourage you guys to try out those new things, because you just never know what’s best for you. But before you make a decision, sit down and think – what does “better” mean? Better for others, or better for you? Will the thing you crave really benefit you? Will it make your life better, or will it just make it different? And why do you think “different” means “better”? What’s wrong with the situation you are in right now? Are you unhappy, or do you just think you “need more”? Even if you’re unhappy in the place you at live in right now, moving out it’s not always a solution – because you’re taking yourself with you. The thing that bothers you will follow you, make no mistake about that. You better deal with that first, before you move out. Changing the surrounding will usually not solve your problem; it might even make things worse.

Maybe your situation is not bad at all, and you just create problems in your head? Do you know what is it that you want? Maybe this is a problem? Maybe your mind is running around and you’re constantly coming up with new ideas for yourself and you end up not knowing what is it that you’re missing? Maybe the only thing that you’re missing is yourself? Maybe once you connect with yourself again, you’ll finally find the peace inside you’ve been looking for.

I decided to travel more, because I know that life is just too short to postpone things.  And by travel I don’t mean going on a plane and visiting exotic countries (that’s my goal, too), but just to see what’s an hour or two hours away from the place I live in right now. Sometimes you don’t have to change everything to notice what’s important for you. Sometimes all it takes is to go somewhere for a day and open your eyes to completely change your perspective.  

Then, when you come back, you somehow can appreciate your life more, you start focusing on what you already have. When you think of it – there are enormous amount of things that you can be grateful for right now, but in order to see them, you have to leave your head once in a while and start not just to look, but to actually see things around you. 



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