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The Most Annoying American Family
I must say, I’m so fed up with these fake images and fake lives that are all over social media now. And there is one family that makes me especially angry. You’ve p...

Step 53 - Do You Have A Choice?
I believe I have already written about what I am about to say in this post, but I’ll be coming back to the subject, because it’s really important. I notice more and more often that we ge...

Step 52 - Don’t Assume (Or In Another Words, Don’t Judge)
We’re all guilty of it. We judge. And even if you say or think that you don’t, I have bad news for you – yes, you do. We all classify people based on our knowledge of the...

Stereotypes. Have Enough Class To Not Say Anything
I wrote about stereotypes already, but the longer I live here, the more I see that not much is changing in this matter. Living in NY will help you learn more about other cultures, but it doesn&rsq...

What’s My Health Plan For 2018?
I want to share with you my health plan for this year. I don’t know if it works out. I will be experimenting and see what would work for me – and what would be the results in December 20...

Americans’ Dirty Secret
It’s a very difficult topic, but since I really want to write about it, I’m now taking a risk. I’ve been living here for almost five years – and if I combined that period wit...

My Jobs in NY
I wrote about jobs in New York already – about how I believe that there is no job that you should be ashamed of. Let me tell you about my job experience here in a bit more detail. As soon as...

Why You Shouldn’t Fall In Love Too Quickly
I just watched Matthew Hussey’s new video (I wrote about Matthew already on Just Like NY) and I haven’t been watching any recently, but when I saw this title “Four Dangerous Reason...

Step 51 - What Should Be Your Main 2018 Goal?
Some people hesitate to set any New Year goals and resolution for themselves; they just find them stupid. I can understand that. But then some others – like me – take them seriously, be...

I Can’t Help Women if They Don’t Want to Help Themselves
Ladies, I can’t cope with you. I really can’t, not anymore. I keep hearing women complaining about men. They complain how badly men treat them, how terribly guys behave towards them, wha...

How To Say Goodbye To the Old Year?
My goodbye to the year that has just ended usually takes on a form of a few hour session with myself. What I usually do is I take my list of goals I set for myself at the beginning of the year to di...

What Does It Mean To Be a True Gentleman
One of my male friends sent me an article arguing that chivalry is not dead and that there are true gentlemen out there who would “make us melt”. The article presented us with 9 things t...

Step 30 - The Grass Is Greener…

added: 2017-06-13 , category: Transform Yourself

 I believe I wrote about the thing I am about to discuss before on Just Like NY, but I think it’s important enough to talk about it again. I bet everyone knows the quote: “The grass is greener on the other side of the fence”. I’m guilty of thinking this way myself and I have this moment every once in a while when it hits me that I’m doing that again. It doesn’t only concern the place I live in. I’ve never regretted that I live in NY (Hell, no! there wasn’t a single day that I regretted my decision to live in the Big Apple!), but like everyone, I have these tendencies to forget how much I already have. I visited California a month ago for the first time and caught myself thinking that maybe I should move over there right away, because it’s an amazing place. And I had to pinch myself, because the place I live in right now is also amazing! (It’s one of the most remarkable cities in this world!). And suddenly I just forgot about “wanting something different”. This is a disease of our times – we keep wanting something different, because we think it’ll make us happier. We started believing that the best thing for us is still “out there”. And it doesn’t matter how much you have right now, where do you live, or what your bank account shows. And sometimes you’re right – there are better things out there for you, there’re better places to live in, better ways to live your life and there’re better guys to be with. And I will always encourage you guys to try out those new things, because you just never know what’s best for you. But before you make a decision, sit down and think – what does “better” mean? Better for others, or better for you? Will the thing you crave really benefit you? Will it make your life better, or will it just make it different? And why do you think “different” means “better”? What’s wrong with the situation you are in right now? Are you unhappy, or do you just think you “need more”? Even if you’re unhappy in the place you at live in right now, moving out it’s not always a solution – because you’re taking yourself with you. The thing that bothers you will follow you, make no mistake about that. You better deal with that first, before you move out. Changing the surrounding will usually not solve your problem; it might even make things worse.

Maybe your situation is not bad at all, and you just create problems in your head? Do you know what is it that you want? Maybe this is a problem? Maybe your mind is running around and you’re constantly coming up with new ideas for yourself and you end up not knowing what is it that you’re missing? Maybe the only thing that you’re missing is yourself? Maybe once you connect with yourself again, you’ll finally find the peace inside you’ve been looking for.

I decided to travel more, because I know that life is just too short to postpone things.  And by travel I don’t mean going on a plane and visiting exotic countries (that’s my goal, too), but just to see what’s an hour or two hours away from the place I live in right now. Sometimes you don’t have to change everything to notice what’s important for you. Sometimes all it takes is to go somewhere for a day and open your eyes to completely change your perspective.  

Then, when you come back, you somehow can appreciate your life more, you start focusing on what you already have. When you think of it – there are enormous amount of things that you can be grateful for right now, but in order to see them, you have to leave your head once in a while and start not just to look, but to actually see things around you. 



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