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Don’t judge by the chapter you walked into.
It’s a new year, so I want you to change one thing. I would say “we,” but I’ve already been working on it the last two years (not that I’ve mastered it yet). Don’...

Why Some Women Don’t Want to Have Kids (And Why the Reason Is Not What You Think It Is)
Yes, I want to write about it (again), because it bothers me. I recently realized I don’t want to have kids (now and maybe ever). And I realized how difficult it is for a woman not only to adm...

You’re Fine
2018 has been a very successful year for me, because I finally understand that I’m completely fine. I just look at myself and I finally see myself. It took me half my life to understand it, bu...

It’s Profound to Be Understood
As Whoopi Goldberg said in her book „If He Says: ‚You complete me’ — Run!”, which I’ve already written about on JLNY some time ago, people tend to mistake love fo...

You’re Always Becoming
Michelle Obama released her book memoir, „Becoming”, and I keep seeing it everywhere in NYC. I haven’t read it yet and now I really want to. Not because I consider Barack Obam...

Drop This Attitude
I just had my best friend Gosia visited me from Chicago a few weeks ago. We spent the whole weekend together excited about each other. We did a few activities, but what was the most important was th...

Is Your Partner’s Skin Color or Country of Origin Relevant At All?
I will answer the titular question right away: „I don’t think so”. And I’m pretty sure I am right. I honestly don’t understand this whole theory about having a partner ...

How To Get the Body You Want
Have you ever said to yourself: “I’m so fat”…? Or “I can’t even look at myself”…?. Or “I will never lose all this weight”…? Or &l...

Accept the challenge
Until now, my favorite sentence was always: “Hope he’ll change after we get married.” (Yeah,  sure, into a pumpkin…) But there is a new contender that I find equally ...

NY Love Story A.D. 2019
I don’t like romantic comedies. And I can tell you why. Once, it used to be my favorite genre, but I grew up since then (a bit). Also — I moved to NY. Romantic comedies just don’t ...

When Was the Last Time Your Journal Embarrassed You?
When was the last time you said to yourself: “This is embarrassing”, and you actually meant yourself…? Well, it just happened to me. I sat down to write about something else and I...

Why It’s Important To Not Look Like Shit
Here is my question: Why do you think it’s a good idea to look like shit at home? Some people put on their worst clothes at home - clothes with holes, stretched out, worn out, old and ugly. (B...

Do You Want To Be Famous?

added: 2018-03-18 , category: Living in NY

Because I’ve been living here for almost five years now, I tend to forget what kind of place NYC is. It’s where fantasy keeps meeting reality. The longer you live here, the more “normal” your life is becoming. You go to work, come back home, go to the gym, meet up with your friends, read, watch Netflix or Hulu and occasionally go to a movie or a date. That’s it. Sounds like a life lived anywhere else, right? But there are these moments when you realize that it’s also the place where magic happens. That right next to you there are these fancy lives of rich people, movie stars, famous designers, athletes, people you see on TV or in the movies.  It’s funny, but you actually forget about that on a daily basis. For instance – Fashion Week took place in NY recently. You could see posters or social media posts about it, but it’s not like it was part of your life (at least it wasn’t for a vast majority of people). I was at work when suddenly we saw many fashionable people walking down the street, one of them told us that there is Tory Burch fashion show a block away (I went on Instagram and I saw a few posts and it was funny that I could see this building from our window and had no idea that there was something going on). Those people bought latte at our place for $5, but also probably were buying clothes for a few thousand dollars apiece in the next building.

I see movies being shoot every week (my record is three different productions spotted in a single week). You meet people who don’t look so special and you find out that they either were on a TV show or are friends with someone who is very famous. Not to look far – my friend is an assistant to a famous artist and I keep hearing stories about famous people’s lives. It’s not all so glamorous as you might think. The reality level of these people is really low. The amount of money they have is shocking and yet when you find out what their life looks like, what they struggle with and what choices they make, you might question your need to be a part of all that. I would like to have famous friends just because I know they have huge platforms and they can influence the masses – and I have my own mission to accomplish, so that would be very helpful. But if this is something you strive for and that’s why you came to this city – you might be very disappointed very quickly. If you think that this is what would bring you happiness, you’re wrong. And to get inside this world is not as difficult as you might think. The question is – what you’re looking for over there? Fame? And what would you like to do with that? What do you need it for? For people to praise you? Please – get over yourself. Money? How much do you need and what are you willing to do to get it? You want to buy yourself some expensive clothes to feel better about yourself? The longer I live here, the more I realize that to have money is great, but using it wisely is even greater. Expensive clothes will not help you much. That’s why I’m so annoyed when people look up to some celebrities. Just because someone was in the movie doesn’t make them special. It’s just a role; there may not be another one. Look up to people who really did something more, who use their fame to have good impact, who help others. Don’t praise someone just because they were on TV show, had a few good songs or “are famous”.  Famous is not a permanent state; it’s something that was given to you on one occasion and may just as well be taken away from you on another. I see famous people on the streets, in the coffee shop I go to, at the bars, they’re here everywhere. The only difference between me and them is the amount of money in the bank. Other than that – we all struggle with something. And I can bet that I’m happier than most of them. Don’t think that fame resolves all the problems. It resolves some, but it also brings new ones. That’s why when I hear “I want to be famous” I’m just smiling and want to ask: And then what? And if you don’t know how to the answer this question, maybe think about that first, because it might turn out that you don’t have that much to offer. And if you don’t have that much to offer – what would you want to be famous for?



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