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Make Your Own Choice
I was recently called out on holding a supposedly strongly stance against marriage. Since it happened twice in one month, I feel like something I said was actually lost in translation.  I neve...

What’s the deal with meditation?
I don’t know what it’s like everywhere else, but here in the US, meditation has become very popular, to the point where companies hire teachers to give...

Give What You Get
A week ago, I got a text message from a guy I went on a date with… a year before. I didn’t expect to hear from him again (which is why I deleted his number), so I was pretty surprised.&...

How I Decided To Give Up This Beauty Race
It happens that I’ve been spending a lot of time on the Upper East Side recently, and must say one thing – there are a lot of fake faces out there. And it really annoys ...

Where Are You From?...Who Cares?
I can’t believe I have to write about this again, but it just bothers me so much, so here we go. Racism is alive and homophobia is alive, and if you think differently, you’re delusional&...

Step 61 - Find Your Lifestyle
As I said in one of my recent posts – the world has changed and the way we live has changed. I honestly think it’s time to reevaluate some ideas and solutions about the life we want to l...

Do you even want to get married?
I’ve been thinking a lot about marriage recently (not about my own), because suddenly I spend a lot of time talking to married guys (just as friends). And I started to come...

What Does It Mean To Be Successful? My Five Years In NYC
It’s been five years since I decided to live in NY. These were five difficult years, and yet ones filled many amazing moments and great people I’ve met along the way. But five years i...

Step 60 - What Does It Really Mean To Leave Your Comfort Zone?
“Leaving the comfort zone” became a very common phrase these past few years. It is associated with the idea of breaking free from the life you’ve had so far – with sta...

Choose Your Own Relationship
I’m single so – naturally – I do think about guys and relationships. I’ve been thinking a lot of what type of a guy would actually make me want to be in a relationship. An...

Step 59 - How Many (Facebook) Friends Do You Need?
  I remember when Facebook first came into our lives, we were all kind of proud of the fact that our friend count was growing. The more there is social media in our lives, th...

Step 58 - Are You Able To Let Your Old Self Go?
I’m lucky enough to have a few friends whom I can share my fears, tears and happy moments with. These are friends with whom I can go through any emotional rollercoaster. It’s very...

Do You Want To Be Famous?

added: 2018-03-18 , category: Living in NY

Because I’ve been living here for almost five years now, I tend to forget what kind of place NYC is. It’s where fantasy keeps meeting reality. The longer you live here, the more “normal” your life is becoming. You go to work, come back home, go to the gym, meet up with your friends, read, watch Netflix or Hulu and occasionally go to a movie or a date. That’s it. Sounds like a life lived anywhere else, right? But there are these moments when you realize that it’s also the place where magic happens. That right next to you there are these fancy lives of rich people, movie stars, famous designers, athletes, people you see on TV or in the movies.  It’s funny, but you actually forget about that on a daily basis. For instance – Fashion Week took place in NY recently. You could see posters or social media posts about it, but it’s not like it was part of your life (at least it wasn’t for a vast majority of people). I was at work when suddenly we saw many fashionable people walking down the street, one of them told us that there is Tory Burch fashion show a block away (I went on Instagram and I saw a few posts and it was funny that I could see this building from our window and had no idea that there was something going on). Those people bought latte at our place for $5, but also probably were buying clothes for a few thousand dollars apiece in the next building.

I see movies being shoot every week (my record is three different productions spotted in a single week). You meet people who don’t look so special and you find out that they either were on a TV show or are friends with someone who is very famous. Not to look far – my friend is an assistant to a famous artist and I keep hearing stories about famous people’s lives. It’s not all so glamorous as you might think. The reality level of these people is really low. The amount of money they have is shocking and yet when you find out what their life looks like, what they struggle with and what choices they make, you might question your need to be a part of all that. I would like to have famous friends just because I know they have huge platforms and they can influence the masses – and I have my own mission to accomplish, so that would be very helpful. But if this is something you strive for and that’s why you came to this city – you might be very disappointed very quickly. If you think that this is what would bring you happiness, you’re wrong. And to get inside this world is not as difficult as you might think. The question is – what you’re looking for over there? Fame? And what would you like to do with that? What do you need it for? For people to praise you? Please – get over yourself. Money? How much do you need and what are you willing to do to get it? You want to buy yourself some expensive clothes to feel better about yourself? The longer I live here, the more I realize that to have money is great, but using it wisely is even greater. Expensive clothes will not help you much. That’s why I’m so annoyed when people look up to some celebrities. Just because someone was in the movie doesn’t make them special. It’s just a role; there may not be another one. Look up to people who really did something more, who use their fame to have good impact, who help others. Don’t praise someone just because they were on TV show, had a few good songs or “are famous”.  Famous is not a permanent state; it’s something that was given to you on one occasion and may just as well be taken away from you on another. I see famous people on the streets, in the coffee shop I go to, at the bars, they’re here everywhere. The only difference between me and them is the amount of money in the bank. Other than that – we all struggle with something. And I can bet that I’m happier than most of them. Don’t think that fame resolves all the problems. It resolves some, but it also brings new ones. That’s why when I hear “I want to be famous” I’m just smiling and want to ask: And then what? And if you don’t know how to the answer this question, maybe think about that first, because it might turn out that you don’t have that much to offer. And if you don’t have that much to offer – what would you want to be famous for?



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