What I’ve learned in NYC is to experiment; with everything. I go to the shows I’ve never been to (with fake blood or fake penises); I’ve tried cuisines I was never familiar with; I’m friends with and I’ve worked with gay people, transgender people, people from different countries. I’ve talked to drag queens; dated guys with distinct than mine skin color; I go to meditation circles, channeling events and laughter workshops, and many other things. I do it because I love life and want to enjoy it, that means – try different flavors of it. And I want to encourage you to do the same. Experiment! How do you know if you like something if you have never tried it? How do you know what are you capable of doing if you do the same things over and over again? Expose yourself to new ideas!
Routine is great, and our body appreciates it, but only when it comes to our healthy habits, not to everyday life. If you do the same things all the time if your days look the same for the last few years, what do you learn? I know that sometimes you dream of a steady pace, of having a routine, that all you need is peace, I get it, I’ve been there, but sometimes we start living on autopilot without realizing it. We do the same things, not even knowing why we do them; we don’t know if we also like them because we stopped being aware of the process itself. We repeat them and stop questioning them. I want you to examine them sometimes. Ask „Why?”.
Why do I do what I do? Question things. Just because most people do it, it doesn’t mean it’s right. Just because they tell you that this is how you’re supposed to live, it doesn’t make it right. I question things all the time and am looking for something that works for me. Find something that works for you.
But to know that, you have to start exposing yourself to new things. You don’t have to do it every day; not even every week, but do something new once a month. You certainly don’t have to live in NYC to explore. Sometimes all you need is the internet. Google new things, watch some YouTube videos, and try new stuff. Go to events you’d not usually go. Talk to people who are not like you. Open yourself to new ideas, see that there is way more in this world than you think.
Waking up, going to work, coming back home, watching TV and going to bed might be fun for a bit, but if it’s another year like that already, what do you discover about yourself? As I said – I do understand wanting to have a steady pace, but even living a stable life, you can learn something new about yourself. Living without learning is just surviving. People who have kids always say that „kids opened their eyes,” that „kids look at life so differently.” Kids are curious; they are excited about everything; they EXPERIMENT. They have to try everything because they just came to this world. They have to try it to know what it feels like and to find out what works for them. We’re not different; we forget about it. We experiment when we are young, and then we fall into a routine, forgetting that there is this whole ocean of new things. Be willing to see them and try them.
Do something you wouldn’t normally do and see how refreshing that feels. It will make you feel alive. You will remind yourself how great it is to learn something new about yourself. Be a kid. Don’t kill your inner child, let it out, and play. Age doesn’t mean a thing. Have some fun for god’s sake!